Can Long Distance Relationships Work
Wednesday, September 1st, 2010There are many people these days that are involved in long distance relationships, their reasons for doing this differ. Often it’s amongst young couples when one or both side of the relationship move away from home to go to college.
There are differing views on long term relationships, and whether they actually work or not. My personal opinion is that the vast majority do not work.
For the following example I will use a young male who was living at home with his parents. And before moving to college he spends all of his spare time with his girlfriend, the makings of a long distance relationship. The theory is that he will still see his girlfriend in the holidays and then once his studies are finished the relationship can resume.
However as you know men are far more likely to get tempted to cheat at college than women are. Obviously during their time at college they shouldn’t be having sex with anyone else but after a few too many drinks at a party temptation can easily overcome loyalty.
Being in a long term relationship means that men are more likely to get away with being unfaithful, and the more they think they can get away with it the more likely they are to do it. You will probably never find out if your partner has been unfaithful whilst you are in a long term relationship.
Another reason why long term relationships can be doomed is because people grow apart. While someone’s away they can develop new friendship groups and get used to life without their partner.
If you both know that your relationship is only going to be long distance for a certain amount of time then this is the only way I can see things working out. It is most probably not going to work if you are going to be apart for several years.
I would therefore consider everything before you get back into a long distance relationship that has already broken up once. There is no point just going to get back with your ex for some company, as you spend that much time apart you are pretty much always alone anyway.